Looking for mother and daughter dating
I escaped it for 17 years of parenthood, but the odds were always stacked against me.
I have two beautiful and intelligent daughters, and eventually a boy smart enough to see it was going to come calling. My daughter and her boyfriend spend almost every free moment they have in our house.
(Don’t even get me started on the “Purity Balls” where daughters “pledge” their virginity and “purity” to their fathers.
Can anyone show me ANY example of an institution where sons pledge their “purity” to their mothers?
In fact, they have whole “daddy-daughter dances” that are structured in the exact same format as high school dances.
And, maybe it’s just me, but I’ve never encountered moms and sons “spending time together” in the same way.
I don’t know of any moms who get dressed up, bring their sons a boutonnière, and head out for a fancy night on the town.
One can argue that girls might be more inclined to enjoy this “fancy dress-up” more than boys might—although that’s a pretty big generalization—but, regardless, I think it’s pretty obvious that there are some pretty big differences, both in terms of perception and execution, when it comes to daddy-daughter dates and mommy-son dates.
I’m not proud of my years as a teenage boy, but as a parent I have a wealth of experience to draw upon. I know you’re going to kiss, but I sure don’t want to see it. Show my daughter the respect she deserves, and she’s been taught to treat you the same way.But I’ve always been confused about why dads and daughters structure that time around “dates”—roleplaying lessons in opposite-gender respect—while the same expectation apparently doesn’t exist between mothers and sons. If there’s no dad, should the moms be taking the daughter out and showing her how to be respected at a fancy dinner and a formal dance?AND, this is important to note, this all assumes that the family is a heterosexual, 1950s nuclear family. If there’s no mom, should the dads be doing the same thing with their son?Can you think of a time when a mom takes her son out, they get dressed up, and she’s trying to show her son how his future girlfriends should treat him later in life? And it IS a romantic date structure because men don’t usually bring flowers or go dancing when they’re trying to express their respect for their aunts, female work friends, or sisters. placed in the same situations, what are moms supposed to do with their sons? Are the moms supposed to listen intently, laugh at his jokes, and tell him that’s he’s handsome? If a boy ends up with a woman who’s “just like his mother,” that’s generally perceived to be a bad or a weak thing. If we have fathers taking their daughters on admittedly innocent “dates” to teach them about how men should respect them, should mothers be doing the exact same thing?Should mothers be using dates with their sons to prepare them for their future relationships?
If it exists, I’d love to see it.) Ultimately, there are many, many ways to impart respect and love to your children.