How to talk to someone intimidating
The woman who has heard it once has likely heard it a thousand times.
To counter this annoying statement, she likely has awesome friends and family who remind her, “You don't want a man who isn't confident enough to take you off the market,” or as Dad always tells me, “You will work best with a man who thinks you're the best thing since sliced bread.
Do you feel better after getting this off your chest, as if we are in a first interview and you need to shake your nerves by being brutally honest?
The same woman you find intimidating is also really good at making the same raunchy jokes as you are. She's clumsy and messy, can “man” a BBQ, yells at the TV for her team, enjoys downtime on the couch and eating junk food. Just her, the dog, a cup of coffee and the Top 40 getting down with her wet hair and makeup-free face.The same women who intimidate you have the same fears, hopes and dreams as you. They're normal, so stop holding them to some level that intimidates you; you don't know her yet.Hearing, “You're intimidating,” directly from a man is not typically a one-time occurrence.The world is full of “good catches” and natural born leaders. Please stop mistaking my not needing you for me not you.These people have a hard time settling down because they want to be pushed and challenged, but they don't think it can mutually exist with love. The fact that I have all that going on and still want to make you my priority person should speak volumes.
All of these are products of her story, and you love them. You just might not be able to get enough; and yes that can be frightening, but it can also be amazing.