Dating as a single father
Rule #1: Be Realistic You might be used to someone who only has you to spend his time and money on, but with a single dad, the situation will be very different. Try not to be too upset if he can't afford to take you on extravagant dates or he has to cancel because his daughter got sick.Rule #2: Know the Difference Between Expectations and Standards Standards are the things you must have in a relationship—mutual respect, attraction, fun, etc.Trying to get too involved too quickly will only lead to resentment from her and her children.Rule #4: Be Yourself Generally speaking, you should never try to be something you're not.There’s nothing worse than a desperate clown doing tricks for approval.Kids have an instinct for sniffing out bullshit, and if you try too hard, they’ll take a magnifying glass to whatever warts they’ve already decided you have.You are the woman who’s actually there, feeling resented, in the way, and often tossed aside for more important things.
They'll come around when they can see what a wonderful person you are.That clear and simple explanation cracked everything wide open for me. Even though I already knew that, it hit me in a new way when my friend explained it. Chances are, no matter where he is, he feels like he’s letting someone down, and between the two factions in his life, you are (supposedly) the grown-up. Sometimes when parenting duties push me off the docket, I can see in his eyes how torn up he feels—how much he hates disappointing me but has no choice.When I am my better self and I see that look in his eyes, I give him a kiss, tell him I love him, and go on my way.But that doesn't mean that every attractive single dad you meet is off limits!Just remember these eight rules for dating single dads.